For me, a Type-A-Self-Diagnosed-Borderline-OCD-Business-Owning-Introverted-Rage-Cleaning-Mother-of-3 (and that’s just a snippit) being in control is my jam! However, this year I have constantly been hit over the head with the life lesson that I am not in control. When my business was abruptly shut-down in March, I, like many others, embraced new and expanded roles in my household. For about 6-weeks I was pretty miserable, and let’s face it, I have my pity-party for one on occasion still. Everyone I’ve talked to has experienced the ‘COVID-blues’ that comes in waves. Those are the “It’s not FAIR!!” moments that are like dark thunder filled clouds that cause even the most mature grown-up to have full on tantrums like a 2-year-old. But, there’s hope for brighter days ahead with a simple concept.

During the shut-down, I was given the opportunity to teach the concept of Circle of Control virtually to my oldest child’s Kindergarten class. And, although this image is geared toward kids it’s so perfectly illustrated and easy to understand. There is so much outside of my control – what others say or post on social media, what people think of me, my spouse or kids’ behavior. But, what I can control is the way I treat others, how I talk to others, and how I respond to situations.

I’m not perfect (just ask my family). But, focusing on my Circle of Control, not what’s outside of it, has made a heck of a difference in my social and emotional health. And that there, is enough for me. So, I challenge you to evaluate your circle and let me know how it goes!

The Circle of Control

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